Sometimes people are pleased to hear: "a person with character", "strong personality", "pronounced individuality". This is most often wanted to be heard by young people who have not yet been realized professionally, or older people who are experiencing a midlife crisis - those who would like to gain character.
Instruction manual
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To begin with, think about what you mean by the phrase "acquire character" and what it is for. If you want to become more interesting and respected for others, this is one goal. If you want to learn how to refuse intrusive petitioners, it’s completely different. If you want to gain the reputation of a strong-willed person at work - the third. And it is necessary to go to the solution precisely from the conditions of the problem.
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Strong-willed personalities are shrouded in a halo of admiration and adoration, books about people in power are very popular, programs about the powerful are gathered by huge audience. And many think about how to become, if not a leader, then at least just an authoritative, strong-willed person. I must say that a soft person can be very significant for others.
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Remember Melanie Wilkes from Gone With the Wind. Being fragile and tender, she built relationships as she considered right. So respect is created not by biceps and not volitional drawing, but by inner qualities. Respect people who think, do and say the same thing. Not everyone finds strength for such a unity, but at least two of the three points must coincide. Respect people of principle, therefore formulate views on life, declare them and follow them implicitly. This, of course, will make you lose flexibility in solving some problems, but this is a matter of setting priorities.
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If you can’t refuse a person, then you don’t have enough confidence that you don’t have to like everyone. As a rule, in this case you are trying to compensate for the lack of significance by a sense of your need. What to do? Accustom yourself to the idea that you have the right to refuse a request without explanation with the motivation "I do not want to." To the question "why do not you want?" repeat the original phrase. This method is called the “hackneyed plate” method. The main thing is to believe that you have the right to want or not to want, without explaining the reasons.
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To show character in a professional life is risky, for this they sometimes increase, but more often they survive from work. Therefore, at work, be careful and limit yourself to just careful observance of your duties and determination.