Facial expression, shaking hands, gait and familiar gestures - all this can tell about a person much better and more than the words he is currently uttering. Because the words are pronounced consciously. Gestures are a category of the subconscious. How to understand them?
Instruction manual
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Is the interlocutor open for communication?
The jacket is fastened, sometimes even with all buttons, this will make its owner also cross his arms over his chest - this is a demonstration of complete closure. "Buttoned jackets" are not ready to conclude an agreement, to make concessions. But if you unfasten your jacket, or remove it altogether, everything will change. There will be a desire for cooperation, teamwork.
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What are the palms talking about?
The openness of children is visible when they stretch their hands, striding towards. It is a joy and a desire to communicate. Has anyone seen a sociable child with clenched fists? The open palm of an adult shows the same thing - there is no stone in it, no weapons.
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Trust or defense?
What hands show. Arms crossed on the chest - protect the heart. Clenched fists will enhance the impression.
Fingers dig into muscles with nails - there is no confidence in this gesture.
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You can sit in a chair in different ways. If the interlocutor is sitting on a chair facing the back or has his legs on the table, he is ready for aggression.
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Evaluate or reflect?
Evaluation gestures are often mistaken because they are like gestures of meditation and reflection.
"Cheek on the hand" lies - this is a reflection.
Four fingers of a hand, closed together below the lips, the fifth finger rests on the cheek or the chin lies in a V-shaped pocket between the fingers - this is a gesture of appreciation.
Head bowed to the side and special care to the chin - interest and appreciation.
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Why do I need glasses?
To win the time it takes to evaluate. Slowly, the glasses are removed, carefully wiped, the handle is gnawed, the glasses owner can also walk around the room - this means that the interlocutor has not yet received all the information he needs to make a decision.
Very serious thoughts and thoughts are reported by touching the bridge of the nose.
If the nose is pinched, the eyes are closed, then there is a state of concentration, but it is difficult for a person to make a decision.
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Do you really think so?
Often people cannot say the word “no” directly, thereby expressing their position and their views, but gestures betray the true thoughts of a person.
The interlocutor does not want to look at you, sits on a chair, slightly turning away towards the exit from the room, he touches his nose, can rub or rub it - that’s all, attempts to say the word “no” with gestures.
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Who is in charge in this world?
You can understand this by saying hello to the hand. The hand can be filed in many ways.
When you shake the hand of the interlocutor is higher than yours - he shows physical superiority.
Anyone who puts his hand palm up is already agreed to be subordinate.
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Customer and professional.
The client wants to get help from a professional, a person who is able to feel his problem. If a professional has taken the pose of the thinker, leans toward the client - they trust him.
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Observing people you can understand everything that they really want, and in what direction their thoughts are moving. In dealing with people you need to be a professional.