Self-criticism helps a person become better. However, sometimes it becomes self-mutilation, and then life becomes only an excuse for endless nit-picking to oneself. In order not to suffer from excessive criticality, you need to escape from self-flagellation and look at yourself objectively.
Instruction manual
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Remember what you scolded yourself for the last time. Did you have a real reason, or did you simply succumb to the long-standing habit of executing yourself? Recognize that you are tired of constantly chasing perfection and struggling with yourself - such as it seems to you, stupid. Get ready to take a fresh look at yourself.
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Control your thoughts throughout the day. Pay attention how many times you blamed yourself for the fact that something went wrong. Write down reproaches in your address in a separate notebook. Let it be a stream of consciousness, do not control it.
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Re-read your notes in a few days. You will probably be surprised that you could express so much negativity in your address. A careful examination of unpleasant situations will make it clear to you that at least you overdo it, blaming solely on yourself.
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Remember how often in childhood your parents scolded you. Most likely, they were too strict on you and constantly demanded to be the best - both at school and at home. To stop practicing self-discipline, you need to mentally return to childhood and explain to your parents that you are worthy of love - unconditional, and not one that still needs to be earned.
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Imagine that you see yourself as if you are a party - a little crying child who is constantly blamed for something. Tell yourself mentally: "I have the right to make a mistake, I am imperfect. This does not mean that I am bad. I forgive myself for the mistakes I make. I love myself." Repeat these words to yourself when you feel depressed that you are doing something wrong.
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Make a list of your achievements, let it be constantly before your eyes. Get sports cups, diplomas, awards from the mezzanines - all the evidence of your success, even children’s. Look at them more often, remind yourself that you have achieved a lot, despite the fact that you made mistakes. And your main successes are yet to come.