People cannot foresee their future. It seems to some to be attractive, beautiful, full of pleasant surprises, while others do not expect anything good from him, they are regularly presented with the most unpleasant scenarios. To enjoy life, you need to stop cheating yourself.
Instruction manual
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Often, increased anxiety is transmitted to children from their own parents, accustomed to worry about any occasion. Such mothers and fathers in childhood often told their children not to swim, because they can drown, not leave the house without a hat, since you can catch meningitis and not drink tap water, because bacteria float in it. The guys grew up safely under such care, but the world seems to them a very unpleasant place - wherever you look, danger lies in wait everywhere. The good news is that you can fight it.
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Along with the bad, lose in your head and a good script. Of course, when you cheat yourself, the chain of unpleasant events appears in the first place: the boss asked me to come to him tomorrow, he probably wants to report back for something, and if he reports back for failure, he will most likely dismiss him. Make yourself write an alternative good script: the boss calls you into the office to report on the success of your project and offer you a promotion. Gradually, you’ll get a habit of not escalating the situation, but simply looking at the situation from different angles.
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You can do something to clarify the situation - do it. If your spouse promised to be at dinner, but is already half an hour late, don’t think about whether he got a mistress or if his car had an accident. Just dial the man’s number and find out why he is delayed and whether everything is in order. If the mobile does not answer - call his friends or colleagues with whom he was, and find out from them the fate of your husband.
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Distract yourself. You can’t wait for the outcome of an important event for you and imagine the worst options - do something that will attract all your attention. Turn on the energetic music in the player and vacuum the apartment, play with your child or pet, run a couple of laps in the square near the house, find an old school textbook and solve a couple of problems in physics. Take the head of others, and you will not have the opportunity to wind yourself.
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Start to meditate. As soon as you understand that anxiety eats you up, sit down comfortably, turn on pleasant music, focus your eyes on one point and try to drive all connected thoughts out of your head. You can meditate not only at home, sitting on the carpet in the lotus position. In the office, you can just sit comfortably on a chair and put on headphones. After five to ten minutes, you will feel calmed down and rested.