It seems to many that circumstances are stronger than them and that it is impossible to influence the events that happen to them in life. Some of us suffer at unloved work, live with unloved people, communicate with those who are unpleasant to them. If you recall your friends, it turns out that those who constantly complain about their unsettled life are not so few. To exist in harmony with the outside world, you need to arrange your life the way you like.
Instruction manual
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Understand that man is the smith of his own happiness. If something does not suit you in your life, do not waste time whining about it and do not complain to others - act. You can’t redo the world around, which means that you must somewhere change your attitude to those things that are not dependent on you, but simply exclude something from your life if it does not suit you. To equip your life is, first of all, to find comfort - mental and physical.
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You will find physical comfort if you equip your home. Instead of suffering, arrange cleaning, rearrangement, and even better - make repairs and change the design in your house, apartment, room. Make it so that when you go inside and close the doors, you feel safe and comfortable, so that you are surrounded by your favorite things and books, so that you feel comfortable and warm in it.
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Think about what you personally need in order to feel happy and say that life is a success. Whatever you do, it should bring you pleasure, therefore, even if you are doing something that you don’t really like, but will help you achieve your goal, do it with great desire.
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There is no unloved work - there is an inability to captivate yourself with it. Any work can be made interesting for yourself if you approach it creatively. You need work to earn money for your life, which means embed it in the system of your values and priorities, try to find pleasure in it. Learn and learn new things, find innovative solutions, and develop new methods. If desired, even an uninteresting occupation can be made a real training ground for developing skills and abilities.
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Work is work, but we spend a considerable part of our time outside of it. Surround yourself with people with whom you will be comfortable communicating, a lot here depends on you. Limit and minimize communication with those who are unpleasant to you. True friends with whom you can discuss all pressing issues and get advice and support can be found even on the Internet.
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Learn to enjoy communicating with yourself, with friends, with nature, even just with strangers. Fill your life with meaning, enjoy it, arrange it the way you want - and peace of mind will be ensured.