There are situations in communication when the interlocutor touches on unpleasant, uninteresting, or even some unethical questions. At the same time, the second person is uncomfortable and reluctant to continue the conversation, but can not come up with anything, because he does not want to offend the interlocutor. In this case, you can try to unobtrusively and imperceptibly change the topic of conversation.
Manipulation
To change the subject, without saying the phrase “Let's change the subject, ” you can use some techniques that manipulate others. Do not be afraid, this is not something from the category of dangerous gypsy manipulations. In this case, you just need to work on the effect of surprise, surprise or overload of the interlocutor’s consciousness.
You can just shut up. Silence in such a situation is even more gold than usual. The interlocutor will clearly be puzzled why the person kept up the conversation, and then he suddenly became silent. Accordingly, the proper effect will be achieved, because either he will begin to find out what happened, or change the subject.
You can, on the contrary, start talking, and speak especially: either bring to the point of absurdity some idea expressed by the interlocutor, or make long pauses between the words and speak monotonously, or speak very, very quickly, or add gestures and facial expressions to everything else. If the interlocutor does not “explode” from overload, he will clearly want to stop the conversation, or at least change the topic to a more neutral one.
On the manipulation in interpersonal interaction, a generally negative opinion has developed, but whether or not to allow it in your behavior is a private matter for everyone. If every day people are still manipulated from televisions, radios, websites and advertising posters, trying to manipulate others just to change the conversation no longer seems so terrible.
Tact
If you act tactfully, it’s not always possible, of course, to succeed, but your conscience will be clear, albeit at the cost of your own pleasure. It is generally considered the most tactful to say bluntly that this topic is not like, but if you want to change the topic and not offend the person, you can try to apply some methods of active listening, albeit somewhat modified.
One of the important methods of active listening - rephrasing - can also be directed to change the topic of conversation. So, you can start the phrase with the words "You mentioned that
.", catch on the smallest detail of the interlocutor’s remark and direct the conversation in a different direction. Or, in absentia, praise the interlocutor:“ You probably know a lot about
"and report something, even remotely unrelated to the topic of conversation. Surely a person will try to show that he really knows a lot about something. The main thing is that the new topic does not turn out to be even more viscous and unpleasant than the old one.