Relationships with loved ones are valuable and important to many people. You need to be able to keep them kind and good, but at the same time do not forget about your desires and interests. To make it quite real.
Instruction manual
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Respect your loved ones. This comprehensive concept includes many aspects, the main of which are: respect for the human right to be ourselves and to make mistakes; understanding of the needs, feelings and desires of others; acceptance of the worldview of people close to you, etc.
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Talk to your loved ones more often, even if you are very busy and have a busy work schedule. Take time for quiet intimate conversations, discussion of any issues, etc. Having fenced off from the husband or wife, children, parents with a wall of silence or endless deeds, you, most likely, without noticing it yourself, hurt them.
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Do not refuse to participate in various family events: parties, picnics, etc., even if you do not like noise and fun. If you have a desire and opportunities, take the initiative to organize the next family celebration for yourself. For example, celebrate with your family the next anniversary of your parents’life together.
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If you are in a bad mood, try not to tear it to your loved ones. The temptation is to answer rudely, to find a reason for scandal, to slam the door, but try to cope with the negativity yourself. Ask to leave you alone or take a walk in the park, put your thoughts in order, calm down.
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Remember that family is the most valuable thing you have, loyal loyal people will not be replaced by any money. Try to treat loved ones with care and love, do not expect them to do everything exactly the way you want. Remember that everyone has the right to fatigue, bad mood, etc. Therefore, if your wife did not cook you dinner or your husband did not make the promised purchase, do not rush to make a relationship-scandal. Smile, defuse the situation with a joke, find a compromise - this is what truly strong and loving people do.
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In the desire not to hurt loved ones, do not forget about your own interests. Feel free to express your personal opinion, to defend your interests, but do it tactfully and reasonably. There are often situations when a person, trying to please relatives in everything, forgets about his own desires, completely dissolves in others, loses himself. If you take this path, then your loved ones, unwillingly, will begin to experience a consumer attitude towards you. In addition, sooner or later your true "I" will begin to protest against such violence against yourself and you, as they say, will break and destroy the usual style of relationship. This can happen quite painfully for everyone.
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Be yourself, love your loved ones, sincerely interested in their affairs, strive to help relatives in difficult situations and try not to create problems where they can be avoided. You should also not get involved in the re-education of careless relatives, constantly teach them worldly wisdom and emphasize your superiority over anyone. Remember that yours and their values may vary significantly. Better work on rooting out your own weaknesses.
Useful advice
Keep the secrets of your loved ones entrusted to you, do not support gossip and intrigue. Behave with dignity - so that you are trusted.