In today's world, where cruelty, selfishness and the pursuit of personal gain reigns, only very few people can be trusted. It is especially difficult to show confidence when a person has already come across betrayal many times, when he was let down even by the most near and dear ones.
Instruction manual
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In order to trust people, you need to track down the reasons for this distrust. Perhaps your loved one failed you, or maybe your friends did not keep their promises, did not live up to their hopes. In any case, distrust should be directed at specific people, and not affect the whole circle of acquaintances. You can talk with those who let you down, explain to them the reasons for your distrust, and tell how much it hurts you. And if people understand and try to improve, you need to understand and forgive them. After all, the matter may be only in your misunderstanding, and not in real betrayal or deception.
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If a person does not want to improve, it is best to part with him, leave his principles and judgments in the past, not blame and not be angry with him. Learning to forgive people, stand on their side, understand their thoughts and feelings towards you is the first step towards trust. Abstain from past negative experiences and understand that even if you were deceived once, it does not mean that this will be repeated every time with every new person.
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When you learn to see and appreciate the positive aspects in people, the good things they do, their distrust will decrease. Maybe you just don’t notice a good attitude and are used to seeing the world in dark colors. But in fact, there are far more good people than bad people. Try to see the good and the location in your friends and acquaintances, and if this is not possible - meet new people. You still have no reason not to trust strangers, they haven’t done anything bad to you, so communicating with them to some extent can become more trusting.
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Do not indulge in negative feelings even in stressful situations, do not suspect all people, otherwise it will turn into paranoia. If your wife is late at work, it does not mean at all that she is cheating on you, and a friend who has not kept his promises may have good reasons for this.
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Do not be afraid to express your suspicions to a partner or friend, to be honest with him in the manifestation of feelings. This will help clarify the relationship with the person, convince him to comply with the agreement, so as not to hurt you. Honesty and openness is not easy for many people, and yet it is much better than accumulating anger and resentment inside, each time fearing that this will result in a quarrel and breakdown.
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Sincerity is the basis of any friendship or partnership, the beginning of any intimacy. Without sincerity, it is impossible to imagine trust in a person. Therefore, as soon as you begin to calmly convey your feelings to a person, he will answer you the same. This is the origin of true trust.