Doctors say that forgiving health can be a useful skill. Unfortunately, not everyone can do this. The reason for this is a person’s feeling of himself as a person who does not allow anyone to inflict mental pain on himself. Therefore, more often people respond to an insult with an even greater resentment. Indeed, in order to learn to forgive, you need to try on the skin of a person who repents, but cannot break through the wall of resentment and alienation in order to receive forgiveness. And forgiveness is necessary, especially close ones.
Instruction manual
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Prepare yourself for the fact that you are unlikely to be able to change your resentment to forgiveness on the move. The first and at the same time the most difficult step to forgiveness is the refusal to concentrate on one’s feelings and feelings. Simply put, think less about yourself.
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This can be done, for example, by trying to switch the course of your thoughts in a different direction. When resentment and anger take over, just say “stop” to yourself and think about something nice. Particularly helpful in some cases are attempts to present pleasant moments of life in which a person who offended you was next to you. If it doesn’t work out, say to yourself some tongue twister, a children's song, a count, or something like that. Each time you suppress your negative emotions, mentally congratulate yourself, in general, maintain your mood morally.
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Memories of cases in which you yourself were an offender also help to forgive a person. Remember how you felt then. Now you can imagine the current state of your repentant offender. Look at the situation broader. This will help you quickly change your anger to mercy.
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Here are a few other ways to help suppress your negativity and deal with your resentment and resentment:
Try to “train” on people you don’t know. If you are roughly cut on the road, deliberately cheated or crawled ahead of you in line, inhale slowly and as deeply as possible, try to consciously suppress your feelings of anger and resentment;
Every morning, start with a mental attitude: "Nobody owes me anything, but I am indebted to the whole world for all the good that has happened and will happen to me";
If you do not know how to forgive “permanently, ” try to forgive a person for at least one minute. The next day, I'm sorry for two or three minutes. Increase the time gradually;
Forgive yourself. When you have advantages and disadvantages, you will become more tolerant of others.