Experience is peculiar to man, even, it would seem, to the most indifferent and calm. People are worried about their loved ones, upset because of injustices, failures. This is understandable and natural. But there are people in whom this quality takes clearly excessive forms. For example, they are very worried about their children, control every step they take, even if they have long grown, they themselves have become parents. At the sight of a poor old woman asking for alms or a stray dog, they are ready to burst into tears, fall into a real depression. Such an excessive experience harms, makes it difficult to communicate with households, colleagues.
Instruction manual
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Excessive experience is mainly inherent in impressionable people with a heightened sense of responsibility. They treat themselves with increased demands and therefore expect the same from others. It is unbearable for them to see injustice, cruelty, indifference, they are tormented by a feeling of guilt that they live relatively well, when there is so much grief around. Therefore, they worry themselves and make others nervous.
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Everything needs a middle ground. Try to convince yourself with an argument: no man can be held accountable for all the sins of the world. You are not able to help all old people in need, feed all hungry children, shelter all homeless animals. Even the noblest thing cannot be turned into an obsession.
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Concern for children is the most understandable, natural thing. Any normal parent instinctively seeks to protect the child from danger, help, give the necessary advice. But again, everything is good in moderation. Try to understand: an adult son or daughter should not be treated as a minor indiscretion. It is unlikely that you want it to be painful to communicate with you.
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Reassure yourself with this argument: your matured children are smart, sensible people, they are not enemies of themselves or your grandchildren. They themselves will realize that you need to eat right, dress according to the season, carefully monitor the children, protect their health and avoid unnecessary risk. Indeed, otherwise it turns out that you brought up rare fools.
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Resort to auto-suggestion. Repeat yourself as often as possible: "Because I am nervous, I can’t find a place for myself, I jerk myself and jerk others, it only makes me worse." And indeed it is.
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It does not hurt to consult a qualified endocrinologist to check your thyroid gland. The fact is that such excessive anxiety, experience can be caused by a violation of hormone levels. Go examination, pass all the necessary tests. If necessary, you will be prescribed a course of treatment.