Behavior is in many ways our habits that are ingrained over time in a lifestyle or style of acting. It would seem impossible to change what has been forming over the years. However, when you start working on yourself, you will realize that changing your behavior is real.
Instruction manual
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Observe yourself and understand what exactly you would like to change in your behavior: habit (quit smoking), reaction (get annoyed a lot), physical reaction (get stained when communicating). Think about what the ideal situation you are looking for would look like.
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Describe the behavior you want to achieve. Try not to use the not particle. Instead of “I won’t be annoyed” write “I’ll better understand my interlocutor” or “develop patience”.
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You cannot change your behavior against your will. Realize why you need to do this. Find as many advantages as possible in the new type of behavior. Look for the benefits of changing.
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If you want to immediately change a lot of things in yourself, stop. Chase two hares, you will not catch anyone. Change behavior gradually: work on one habit first. When you see progress, consolidate the new behavior, and only after that, proceed to the next habit. For changes to become firmly entrenched in life, you need at least three weeks to get used to the body's unusual behavior.
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Many people, changing something in themselves, seek to remove or eradicate a certain type of behavior (for example, never get annoyed). Instead, try adding a new action or reaction to your arsenal (react with humor). Buying something is much easier and more useful than getting rid of something that might someday come in handy. Do not forbid yourself the behavior of the old model. Let this method be with you, but try to develop a new one that will lead to the cherished goal.
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Introduce a new mechanism that brings bonuses. Take action. Appreciate the results. Highlight the benefits of this type of behavior. Mark the changes. Encourage yourself for your steps toward the goal. Be positive. If the new method for life is more effective, then the old will leave the daily routine by itself. In the case when this does not happen, think over the bonuses that you will receive from the emerging behavior.
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Seek help in the outside world and surroundings: from friends, in books, in films, you can get valuable information and information. Seek support from a psychologist if it is difficult for you to cope with the situation.
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Announce publicly that from day “H” you are changing. When you have already promised a large number of people to do something, it will be hard to refuse and not keep your word.
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Be prepared for sabotage. There will be times when the body wants to return to its previous state. Control this process. Once again recognize the benefits of the behavior you are striving for. Friends who are used to your old habits can provoke you. Track yourself. Gently tell your friends that you have changed and are now acting differently.