Everyone wants to be loved and respected. But for some people, the need to please everyone is so strong that many life decisions are made by them, based on how strong the approval of others will be. Such non-independence indicates that a person is extremely insecure.
Instruction manual
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An excessive desire to like everyone can be caused by a whole complex of reasons, and to understand what exactly is your main problem, you need to honestly answer your question: what does the need for public approval mean to me? What is hidden behind the desire to please? Perhaps you had too strict parents who demanded too much? Or your self-esteem is so low that you are extremely insecure. To feel good and calm, you need to know that you are loved. This is the most common reason.
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Engage in self-esteem, love yourself. If you yourself are not sure that you deserve love and sympathy, then the only confirmation of the significance for you is the opinion of others. But when you begin to love and appreciate yourself, then the need to constantly feel that you mean a lot to others will disappear by itself. You will begin to feel that you are right, even when everyone else does not share your opinion.
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Like everyone, without exception - this is very difficult, it is much more difficult than just being yourself and behaving naturally. No matter how you try to earn the respect and sympathy of all those around you, this still will not work, since everyone has their own views on how you should be a person. They will demand the impossible from you, so this desire can only lead to a nervous breakdown.
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It happens that a person wants everyone to love him, because he himself is very sensitive, and any manifestation of aggression or indifference is perceived by him painfully. If so, then try to be calmer. Most likely, many of those who sympathize with you simply do not talk about it. Most people do not seek to compliment or praise others for successful decisions. But in order to express criticism, usually a whole queue of people wishing to line up. Just take it for granted. If people do not demonstrate their disposition towards you every now and then, this does not mean that they do not love you.
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Recognize that people are arranged in such a way that they value more not those who are ready to give in and please them in everything, but those who have their own opinions on many issues, who do their job, despite the difficulties and failures. Be yourself, follow your needs and ideals, and the number of people who sincerely admire you will increase significantly, despite the fact that you will no longer feel the need for it.