Grief is an emotional and spiritual reaction of a person to the severity of loss. It is normal to grieve over a loved one or animal. Breaking up can make you feel deeply depressed. Experiencing bereavement, you feel sadness, pain, disappointment, and even anger. Physically, you are no less exhausted than emotionally. Loss of sleep and appetite are frequent companions of sorrow. If you do not go through all stages of grief, it is impossible to accept and overcome the pain. But you can’t get stuck in any one stage, because life, in spite of everything, continues.
You will need
- Support for loved ones
- Time
Instruction manual
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Dr. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross in her book "On Death and Dying" identified five emotional phases in people experiencing grief:
Negation
At the first moment, we do not want and cannot believe that what happened is true. It's hard for us to accept what happened, and we simply deny it. Our psyche is trying to protect us and prepare for further experiences.
Anger
Anger is an important step in the process of grief. It allows anger and frustration to break out. We can blame the one who brought us bad news or even the person who left us. It seems to us that by throwing these feelings out, we at least somehow reduce the unbearable pain. If you feel anger at the deceased, do not reproach yourself for this, understand that this is also an indicator of how dear you were.
Conversation
At this stage, many people turn to God or deities. You realize the reality and gravity of the loss and are trying to somehow pay off the irreparable. Someone is praying, someone is thinking that he would like to die instead of his beloved.
Depression
At this stage, it can be difficult for you to get out of bed, just open your eyes in the morning, and do your daily activities. Emptiness and numbness - these are the feelings that haunt the grieving at these moments.
Adoption
After accepting the incident, pain, shock, anger and depression subside. This does not mean that you immediately begin to feel happy, but you can move on. Acceptance is a repeating process when, over and over again, you realize that what happened is a reality and you need to somehow continue to live.
Understanding what is happening to you in your grief can help you survive it and deal with it.
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Remember - sorrow is a normal reaction of a person to loss. Accept your grief and all the physical and emotional manifestations that accompany it. Express your feelings, no need to keep emotions inside. Cry, beat dishes, talk with others about what you are experiencing. If you are an emotionally restrained person and it is difficult for you to express your feelings in public, find a different way out for emotional stress. Write letters, draw, compose verses.
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Do not delete friends and relatives from your life. Let them help you. Yes, it will be hard with you, but you should not refuse people to show love and care for you. Give place to compassion.
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Make yourself take care of your health. Eat, through I do not want, walk, through I can not, take sedatives before bedtime. If your loss is a breakup or divorce, make yourself feel the taste for life - take care of yourself, go to an expensive restaurant with your friends, buy theater tickets. If you are experiencing the loss of a loved one, do not feel guilty for being alive. It is unlikely that this is what you yourself would wish your beloved if he lost you.
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Say goodbye to a loved one or creature by visiting places where you have been together, where you felt good. Let grief give way to sadness.
note
Alcohol and drugs do not help cope with grief.
Useful advice
If a lot of time has passed - a period of four months is considered critical - but you are still depressed, you can’t return to ordinary life and, moreover, think about suicide, you need professional help. Realize this and ask someone to recommend you a good psychotherapist.