A life scenario is a set of attitudes and goals that a person defines for himself in early childhood and follows them all his life. People do not realize the extent to which their actions and desires are governed by a life scenario. And if we understood this and worked with him, we could effectively change our own life in any direction.
The life scenario is divided into categories: “winner”, “defeated” and “non-winner”. The first category implies the achievement of the goal and obtaining satisfaction. For example, the child decided that he will have a large family - he grew up, married, has three children, he is satisfied. The second category is not achieving the goal and lack of satisfaction. Those. the child grew up, married, but his wife is barren. Or the children were born sick, the person is unhappy, and the goal is not achieved, because no satisfaction. The third category is the “average” scenario. Those. the child grew up, married, and instead of five children, one was born, the wife cheats, but does not leave - the person lives between victory and defeat, this suits him, although he does not satisfy him.
And the main thing here is that the implementation of the scenario is determined not by chance, but by a person’s subconscious choice. The “winner”, for example, will choose a healthy woman who wants a family as her wife. "Defeated" will choose a sick or unwilling to give birth. The "non-winner" will choose the one that has a tendency to betray. None of them will understand that the outcome is his own decision.
The “defeated” scenario is divided into three degrees of severity, depending on the outcome. The first degree is a series of minor failures that constantly prevent a person from achieving a goal. For example, children do not obey, the wife of a slut, with mother-in-law scandals. The second degree includes larger failures, such as divorce or dismissal. The third degree leads to an irreparable result - suicide, imprisonment, mental illness. This is also an unconscious person’s choice.
Psychologically, the difference also lies in the fact that the “winner” operates with several possibilities to achieve the goal, the “defeated” puts everything on one opportunity (he does not see the others), and the “non-winner” tries to avoid risk altogether.
It is worth remembering that a life scenario, whatever it may be, is not a sentence. It can always be changed, and psychologists working in the transactional analysis category can help.