The formation of a person’s worldview has taken place for many millennia. The behavioral features of men and women made them different creatures, biologically they belong to the same species, but they think and speak differently. Men are more concise and consistent, they first think, then speak. Women, however, prefer to reason during a conversation, so they pronounce a lot of words. You can find a common language if you listen to what another says.
Instruction manual
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Historically, the man was a defender and a getter, he had to hunt for many hours, where silence and attention are needed. Women brought up children, created coziness, were in a constant environment where they talked and shared experiences. A habit of talking was developed: women did this constantly, men rarely and to the point.
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In antiquity, the price of a word was formed. If the man said something, then he was required to obey. The whole family depended on him, could not argue. But this imposed a great responsibility, if he said it was invariable, then you can’t be wrong. And this also reduced the amount of what was said to avoid oversights or inaccuracies. The woman had to talk a lot to teach the children all the necessary skills.
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Today, much has changed, but still the conversation is conducted as if in different languages. A woman pronounces an average of 20 thousand words per day. Moreover, she can talk, think and do something at the same time. A man speaks only 7 thousand words, but at the same time he only narrates without doing other things. But he gives facts and arguments, gives precise instructions, offers solutions. The female stream of words is like an avalanche, a lot of ideas are simply transmitted to the world, and in the process of pronouncing, the most correct version of actions suddenly arises.
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A man cannot do several things at once. It is difficult for him to concentrate on two or three things at once. If he listens, he does just that. But it is important for him to receive information in essence, and not the general flow. If this does not happen, he switches to another occupation, and simply does not notice the spoken words. The woman does not understand why he does not hear or do what she asks. She may not be aware of the characteristics of thinking.
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The lady needs to talk, and if she sits at home, if she talks a little, this becomes a problem. When a husband comes home from work, he suddenly comes across a huge number of words that he is not able to accept. It is enough for the first 10-15 minutes, when the spouse only mentions some facts, by the time she begins to come up with solutions to situations, he is already busy with other things. And it seems that he does not listen, and this causes complaints and resentment.
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To find a common language easier, you need to understand each other. It is better for women to talk with friends, reach the necessary conclusions and provide their husband only with the results of all the dialogues for the day, compactly and structured. Men should say a little more so that the beloved feels his support, does not perceive silence as coldness.