People who are inclined to dramatize any situation often hear that it is necessary to relate to problems more easily. But it’s not obvious to everyone how one can take it and voluntarily stop worrying. To do this, you need to learn the basic mechanism for working with your difficulties.
Instruction manual
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First of all, formulate your so-called problem. Sit down at the table and write down everything that torments you, or talk frankly with a person you trust. In most cases, the situations you are experiencing, after a careful analysis, will appear before you as minor troubles not worthy of attention.
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Ask yourself if the problem concerns you personally. If the situation is not relevant to you, try not to think about it. To distract yourself, direct your energy of disappointment or anger into a peaceful direction (do sports, do spring cleaning, etc.) If the difficulty really affects you, ask yourself if you can influence it. The solution will not necessarily be simple, but to work effectively with the situation, you need to consider at least the first step and take it. This is the key point of a psychologically correct approach to problems - as to the tasks set.
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In the case when you do not have available leverage to get out of this situation, try to forget about it. No matter how difficult it is, you need to be distracted, because confronting a problem with which you can’t do anything is pointless. This also applies to past errors. Perceive already committed mistakes as a lesson to yourself, and not as a reason to harass and "saw" yourself. Analyze problems and errors impartially. Only the one who is inactive is not mistaken, so your mistakes are completely natural. Try to consider your difficulties remotely as a work task, and not as punishment or punishment. In other words, ask yourself the question “What can they teach me?” Rather than “Why do I need this?”
Useful advice
Dale Carnegie recommends dealing with panic in the face of the problem in the following way. Imagine the worst outcome of a situation (such as job loss or divorce) and
make peace with him. When you are ready for the worst, start with a cold head to solve the problem.