Heartache - the pain is the most incomprehensible. It is she who brings the person more suffering, because from her there are no pills, potions or syrups. You never know whether it will pass tomorrow or drag on for many years. You need to get rid of heartache slowly and consistently, not counting on an instant result.
Instruction manual
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The first thing you want to do is forget everything and run away. But the way to "buy a ticket to the sea or a ticket to the village to my grandmother" is far from the best. It will give only momentary results. And then you still need to return home to the real world. And then the pain will only get worse. Everything in everyday life will remind you of pain - the memory was muffled for a short time. And on her return, she will again take possession of her heart.
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To get rid of the pain, you need to name its cause. Speak it out loud clearly. Or write. The main thing is to realize. Maybe for this you need an interlocutor - this may be the best friend or psychologist. If the pain is caused by the loss of a loved one, you need to figure out what hurts care most? This may be a fear of loneliness or a feeling of guilt before the dead. If a loved one abandoned, you need to understand what really happened as a result of his departure: confidence in the future is lost or vanity is wounded.
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When the cause is named and realized, it is necessary to begin to eliminate it a little. To begin with, tell yourself: “I don’t want to live with this pain anymore. And to get rid of it, I’ll do something new tomorrow - I’ll start writing poems to pour all the suffering into them, or blogging to share the pain with readers. I’ll go to dances or wrestling to splash out my pain physically. I’ll embroider or make soft toys so that painstaking work will dull the severity of my heartache. " It will be easier for someone after crying all night - it all depends on temperament, education and habits.
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Now you can begin to get rid of what reminds you of the cause of heartache. Remove for a while or completely throw out photos and things of a person who is a source of pain. Or less communicate with him if he is still present in life. If the source of mental pain is job loss, then do not read articles on professional topics, avoid talking with former colleagues.
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When the reason is named and realized, there is nothing that can remind of it, and the void in life is filled with your favorite pastime, you can say: "I am starting a new life in which there is no place for mental pain." And start to enjoy every day. Search for this supply. This may be a favorite song heard on the radio, a conversation with a loved one, a chocolate bar eaten at night, a walk in the rain barefoot and without an umbrella, buying a new dress or tie. There are a lot of reasons for joy. There are many more than reasons for sadness! And every new day is a powerful pill against heartache.
Useful advice
Do not expect instant results, and do not take the first relief for recovery.