Surprisingly, many unpleasant circumstances in their life people create themselves. This happens most often because it is most difficult for a person to fight not with other people and not with circumstances, but with his own character. And in a situation where everything looks good outwardly and does not interfere with a successful resolution of the situation, many people still cannot achieve the desired goal, simply because of their indecision, anger, envy, etc.
Instruction manual
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Admit to yourself that you are imperfect. It can be difficult and unpleasant. You must do this because only a sober look at yourself will help you change.
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Make a list of situations that you have not been able to handle in the past. Remember when you set a goal and could not achieve its implementation. Write down these goals. For example, "I want to make my loved ones happy." On the next sheet, list the qualities that will help you do this. For example, attentiveness, the ability to sacrifice oneself, caring for others, the ability to share. Return to this list every time you doubt your abilities or don’t know how to act.
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Create in your head the image of the person you want to become. What qualities does he possess? If you find yourself in a difficult situation, think about how the person you want to become would prove to be in this situation. Perhaps he has more faith in himself, more compassion, wisdom, ingenuity? Try to act also, creating the future "self-image".
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List all your flaws or qualities that you don't like about yourself. If you are dissatisfied with yourself when you are angry, think about your desire to change this quality when you find yourself in a situation that provokes you into anger.
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Stop anger by willpower. If it doesn’t work out, just leave the room in which the conflict unfolds or avoid the person who provokes you. Only will and reason will help you cope with negative qualities.
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Learn to wrap everything up as a joke. Learn self-irony. Even the most intelligent people can be unhappy if they do not know how to laugh at themselves. Therefore, reconsider your attitude to this important quality.
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To change, start acting differently right now. Start living as the person you want to become. Show courage. Trying to change for the better, you lose nothing. On the contrary, you will learn more about yourself.
note
If you are overcome by such an unpleasant feeling as envy of someone, try to wrap this feeling in a positive way. Highlight in a person the qualities that you envy and start … admire them. There is simply no other way to change.
Useful advice
Every day do an act that you wouldn’t dare to do before. Let it be a trifle - a spontaneous trip to the cinema or a trip to nature.