Many are sure that everything is perfect in their family. This will not happen to you, because "everything is different with you" - you love each other. Someone else can be cheating, but not in your family. And all of a sudden this happens as "a bolt from the blue." Why? After all, everything was just perfect. Unfortunately, this question is rather rhetorical. On the one hand, there can be a bunch of answers, and on the other, not a single one. You need to decide for yourself - to forgive, reconcile and go on with his life further or cross out the years lived together.
Instruction manual
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In the future, your tactics should depend on the type of your man. If a man is a type of "Don Juan", then do not hope that he will stop his "quest for adventure." Look in your beloved for the virtues for which you will appreciate him anyway, forgiving his lack (reliability, good father, excellent owner). It is useless to fight the sins of the Don Juans.
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Be philosophical about his betrayal and do not be too principled. Since you have decided to forgive - just pretend that you don’t remember anything. Moreover, a man often himself does not remember his extramarital affairs. It would be funny if it weren’t so painful.
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If your man is calm, reasonable and does not belong to the category of "womanizer", then everything can be much more serious here and this, most likely, is not a fleeting affair. It is worth considering: what could he miss in family life with you? Tasty salads, heart-to-heart talks, extreme camping trips? In general, analyze your life and change it if you decide to put up with betrayal and be with it.
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Most importantly, do not get depressed or panic. You are no worse than his mistress, you are just different. But you have an advantage: most men are conservatives. Often they are just too lazy to change something in their life and most likely, no matter how much he loves her, the man will stay with you.
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Do not sit and wait for him. Now you have a little more time for your beloved - spend it wisely and profitably. To bring yourself to life and improve nerves that are sore, the best medicine for women is going to a beauty salon and shopping. And distract, and change the image.
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Pay attention to your beloved, but do not forget about yourself. You have friends, friends and you can have a great time with them - movies, cafes, bowling, etc. The main thing is not to concentrate on your problem. Release the situation and it will become much easier for you.
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But forget completely, probably not worth it. This does not mean that at every opportunity, you should remind your beloved of his betrayal. It’s just for your family this acquired bitter experience. And every experience is priceless, no matter how painful it may be. In the future, you will look differently at many things and life situations. And most importantly, your faith. The belief that you can cope and that everything will be fine with you.