Emotions are what makes a person human. The world of inner experiences reflects the richness of the human soul, creates the uniqueness of the individual. Only a soulless machine is not able to sympathize, love or hate. But not always emotional outbursts can carry a charge of positive energy. Can I learn to control myself and my emotions?
Instruction manual
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Since a person is a social being, the ability to control one’s emotional manifestations is often an urgent need. At work and at home, the ability to manage feelings is a valuable social skill that testifies to the maturity of a person.
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An emotionally restrained person is often at the forefront of conflict situations, which can lead to undesirable consequences, whether it is dismissal from work or the breakdown of marital relations. It is no secret that our physical health is directly related to emotions and ability to cope with stress. How to learn to control yourself? And can this be done?
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First of all, it must be remembered that the greatest danger is represented by emotions that are negative in color. Irritation, anger, resentment, anger can lead to the development of malignant tumors, cardiovascular diseases.
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If you feel the onset of anger, try to distract from the situation that caused it and invite yourself to take part in an internal conversation with yourself. This approach will allow you to track your feelings and the true source of their occurrence. An internal dialogue will also help to assess the situation, to understand the possible negative consequences of its development. In most cases, it turns out that the harm from the continuation of the conflict is not worth it to spend time, nerves and health on it.
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General recommendations for managing your emotions are: accept your feelings, recognize the underlying causes that brought them to life. If this or that feeling manifests itself quite often in similar situations, consider what is common in these situations.
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It makes no sense to try to punish yourself for the manifestation of any feelings. Remember that the emotional sphere of your personality is its integral part, which signals that something in your world is not going exactly as you would like.
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The output of emotions is a completely normal physiological reaction that allows you to regulate mental life. The manifestation of feelings helps to release from unnecessary internal stress. It is only important that the release of the emotional charge remains within a socially acceptable framework and does not violate someone else's dignity, moral and legal norms.
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Can I change my feelings? In most cases, this is possible, although it requires certain skills of self-regulation. Say, if you experience negative feelings towards a work colleague, do not keep them to yourself. Formulate your claims and express them to the person in the correct form. Sometimes it turns out that the situation ceases to be tense, and all the negative disappears.
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Of course, sometimes you can’t do without qualified consultation of a specialist psychologist who will help you to better know yourself and choose the appropriate methods for acquiring your ability to manage yourself in a quality manner.