Sometimes someone harshly utters a dead end. It is unclear how best to respond to aggression and insults: to lower all the boor so as not to run into a scandal, or to give him a worthy rebuff, wasting his nerves.
Instruction manual
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Be able to discern provocation in insult. Sometimes a person consciously tries to make you lose your temper so that you appear in an unsightly light before others, descend to his level, talk too much, find yourself guilty, or perform some other tasks of the attacker. If it’s obvious that you are superior to your opponent in moral and mental qualities, putting you on a normal swara may be your opponent’s only chance to deal with you. Do not succumb to such manipulations and do not rush to somehow respond to the insult.
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When your pride is hurt, your indignation is clear and fair. But you must admit that this is the first, unconscious reaction. Think a bit, is it really important to you the opinion of this person. If you absolutely do not need to enter into a dispute, to prove that you are not the same as they have said about you, then do not start a scandal, do not answer with the same coin. The fact that you do not demonstrate the expected reaction from you, but keep calm and do not come to a conflict, will say about you as a person with dignity.
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Do not let an outsider deprive you of a joyful mood. Do not let him unbalance himself. He has no right to influence your psychological state. Look at the insult from this side. Some person unceremoniously tries to penetrate into your reality, play some role in your life, influence your mood, well-being, self-esteem. It is in your power to forbid penetration into your consciousness and mentally put a psychological block from the offender.
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If you are offended by a friend, colleague or even a family member, you can simply stop communicating with this person. Nobody will force you to continue communication with a rude, embittered boor. If you just stop all kinds of contacts after such aggressive human behavior, the truth will be on your side. Try to surround yourself with bright, cheerful, friendly, open and sincere people. From such friends and relatives you do not have to wait for humiliation and insults.
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Do not overreact to phrases spoken to you. Sometimes there are ambiguous situations when a person did not want to offend you, and because of your suspiciousness, you misinterpreted his words. In addition, sometimes it is worth making a discount to others, taking into account the circumstances. Indeed, in a tense atmosphere, at the end of a difficult day or because of an unpleasant event, someone may fall on you without personally having any complaints about you. Of course, this in no way should fully justify the restrained boors. But you will probably feel better if you realize that the insult was not addressed to you essentially.