Human curiosity is sometimes unpleasant, and sometimes disgusting. There are two ways - openness and closeness in communication. And if friends are sacred, then the truth is not told to the enemies. You must learn to protect yourself from psychological attacks in the form of "uncomfortable" and tactless questions. Incorrect questions should receive adequate answers.
Sometimes human tactlessness can unsettle us. Falling into the trap of the unceremonious "Barbara", sticking her nose into personal affairs, we sometimes make mistakes: we start reporting, making excuses, automatically allowing us to put ourselves in the conversation a few steps below. In such cases, more pragmatic people may begin to use our confusion in their own interests - practical or psychological, affirming themselves at our expense in their own eyes.
How can you be used in such a situation?
Didn’t it happen so that after meeting such an unceremonious person everything falls out of hand, and belated answers beat in your head, like fish in a cramped aquarium? In any case, together with embarrassment and awkwardness, we feel how precious constructive energy and emotional balance are leaving us.
A more impudent interlocutor "knocks the ground" from under our feet, takes advantage of our confusion and, thus, dominates not only during the conversation, but also beyond.
If you are of practical interest to an unceremonious interlocutor - for example, you can help you advance in your career, or you have some secrets, or are related to people on whom a lot depends, then do not forget that in this way they can simply establish above you influence and use your careless candor or oversight in accordance with pragmatic tasks.
And there is a category of people who are hindered by envy, for example, or claims to the world around them. Such people, in essence, can be psychological vampires, and your confusion will cause them secret gloating and moral satisfaction. Are you ready to play the role of the person you are using?
What to do in such cases?
Tolerate an "elephant in a china shop", fearing to ruin the relationship, make an unfavorable impression - or abruptly repulse, unequivocally besieging the annoying counterpart, asking incorrect questions?
The main thing is not to be afraid in such cases of someone else’s unflattering assessment. Judge for yourself: who is he, your counterpart, poking his nose into your personal space without permission, and which doesn’t put a penny on you, nor your spiritual comfort, nor your right to independence in your personal life?
Therefore, in no case do not get lost, try to be relaxed, and then you will not have to go into your pocket for words, you will find them instantly - of course, if you calmly react to an irritant.
There are two ways - openness and closeness in communication. If your vis-a-vis is a friend whom you trust, but who has slightly crossed the borders, you can have fun laughing out, pironizing yourself, or allowing yourself to make fun of another. A true friend will understand that he hurt you for the sick, and will not be offended by the light hairpins. But in the future such awkwardness will not arise, most likely.
If your interlocutor is not the most friendly of the people who are involved in your life, or you feel dislike - do not be afraid to show a slight aggressiveness, do not be afraid to seem not sincere. Frank with detractors is not worth it, it can turn into trouble.
No, do not rush to swear with a person who has decided to "get you" a little. It’s just that the irony can be tougher, on the verge of sarcasm, and the verbal counterattack can be more active. Psychological protection is an important part of the strategy of building personal space.
Protect your peace of mind from those who are pleased to bring discord and confusion into your inner life, give adequate answers to incorrect questions.