Communication is an interesting but challenging process. Not always in communication with even the closest and dearest people, we achieve mutual understanding and satisfaction. Psychologists have developed a number of rules that help make communication more enjoyable and effective.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 1. EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to look at the world around us through the eyes of another person, the ability to make it clear to your partner that you understand him, empathize with him. In any difficult situation, try to look at it through the eyes of your partner. This will bring you closer and help you find a solution to the problem.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 2. AUTHENTICITY
Authenticity is the ability to be oneself in communication, to be sincere, open. This is the ability to express the emotions that a person actually experiences. Your sincerity will cause reciprocal sincerity in a partner. Open relationships are close relationships.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 3. RESPECT
Respect - recognition of the unconditional self-worth value of your communication partner. Invaluable when communicating with another person. Respect for a partner means that you allow him to be himself. If you respect the partner, you do not reject him, if you do not like something in his behavior, do not impose your values on him, do not seek to remake him.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 4. CONFRONTATION
Confrontation is the ability to conflict with another person, but at the same time maintain an atmosphere of trust and acceptance. This skill is the most difficult of all six. It combines both openness and respect. It is necessary to learn to maintain a balance in communication between the manifestation of one's self and respect for the manifestations of the self of another person.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 5. SPECIFICITY
Concreteness is the ability to focus on specific events, feelings, experiences, and to avoid unreasonable generalizations and abstractions. For example, the replica "you are always like that!" Is a typical example of an unfair generalization. Be specific: what exactly is wrong right now?
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 6. DIRECT TIME
Directness in time is the ability to be in the current moment, not to run away with thoughts into the past or the future, to stay focused precisely on the current experiences and thoughts. A typical departure from the moment is to bury your smartphone in a date or a friendly meeting. This weakens the contact between partners. Drop all your “then, ” “then, ” “the day after tomorrow, ” and be here and now.