So, your caution was again called suspiciousness. You yourself realize that you fear too much in your life. Excessive caution and doubts, even in small things, often interfere with achieving goals and impoverish life. How to defeat suspiciousness?
Instruction manual
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The tendency to build pessimistic conjectures and expect the worst is a sign of well-developed critical thinking. So with intelligence you are more than good. Only woe … from this mind.
There are two kinds of suspiciousness: connected with people and things. The first variety is more common. But both are equally unpleasant for a suspicious person and his environment. With suspiciousness in relations with people, a person breaks away from reality and builds hypotheses and complex versions of the reactions of others, and for what has already happened, complex mental constructions are generally involved. For example, the boss did not say hello in the morning and walked by, frowning. The suspicious person will immediately decide that Petrov has become innocent about something because yesterday Petrov smiled wryly in the evening before leaving. But in fact, the boss just had a heartache or he had a fight with his wife, and she left for her mother.
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To overcome this kind of suspiciousness, teach yourself how to stop thinking in the wrong direction by switching. To do this, you need to switch from thoughts about relationships to thoughts about work, about complex projects. To do this, always carry a notebook with you, which sets out tasks that it would be nice to think about at your leisure. Leisure will be exactly the moment when you are overwhelmed by thoughts of a bad attitude on the part of the leader. The boss will feel better about you if you can present him excellent projects, because people who know how to think up people who know how to do it are excellent. If you are concerned about personal relationships, then success at work will also contribute to improving relationships, so do your health in your notebook.
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If suspiciousness concerns the world of things, that is, you are afraid that something unpleasant will happen not in connection with relationships, but simply according to the laws of the material world, then to reduce anxiety, give yourself the right to make a mistake, and continue to collect information and increase your competence. Sometimes the attentiveness of a suspicious person allows you to notice the subtlest patterns in the development of society, the material world. Rene Descartes encouraged to doubt everything, and you do not even need to force yourself.
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The greatest danger for a suspicious person is precisely in isolation from reality, so try to get as much information about the world as possible and, reasoning logically, discard false hypotheses. And then you can actually navigate better than others.