People who are poisoned by life complexes are much more than it seems at first glance. Not too demanding on their partner, place of work and prosperity, they are content with the role of gray mice. And few people realize that a bright, interesting personality can be hidden behind this notorious image.
Instruction manual
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Analyze where you got the complexes. This can be done both independently and with the help of a therapist. Perhaps they came to you because your classmates teased you, or because your parents were always dissatisfied with your achievements. Think about why these people once treated you like this. For example, classmates could tease you for having full lips, and your mother, who had to leave dancing classes as a child, tried to realize her dream with the help of you and cruelly scolded for every failure.
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Think about whether their accusations are justified for you at the moment when your plump lips have become sexy and are the subject of your pride, and you are a welcome guest at any disco.
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Write your talents, skills and positive qualities on a piece of paper. Ask your loved ones to supplement it.
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Try not to communicate with people who constantly criticize you and find fault. If this is a relative, reduce communication with him to a minimum. If your boss picks on you for little things, think about changing jobs.
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Take a higher place in society - this will help you increase your self-esteem. You may need to find a new job or ask for a promotion - feel free to do so.
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Never start a relationship with someone you don’t like. The phrase "anyway no one else will pose for me" should disappear from your vocabulary forever. Moreover, your self-esteem will increase when you get rid of the relationship that you built on this principle.
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If it seems to you that you don’t know anything, acquire skills and abilities that will allow you to increase your self-esteem. Sign up for cooking classes, jump with a parachute, learn how to provide first aid to people. This will help you begin to respect yourself and step over the complexes.