The world is so large and diverse that getting lost in it is not so difficult. But the situation is much worse when a person loses himself, his "I", is asked by a large number of questions for which he does not know the answers. To cope with this situation can someone who actively takes up work on himself.
Instruction manual
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Be yourself. Do not try to try on various roles, because there is only one life, and there is no place for theatrical play in it. The formation of personality occurs with age, and it is normal when adolescents measure images one after another. But an adult must know exactly his place in this life.
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Do not adapt to people. Communication with friends, colleagues, romantic and family relationships - they all leave their mark, but you should not let them change you beyond recognition. For example, if someone thinks you are squeezed, it is not necessary to dance in response to a bar in a nightclub. Most likely, you are simply shy and relate to introverts, which is not a bad character trait at all.
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Do what you love. To gain yourself, you need to find a vocation, and only in it you can not lose your identity. If at work you simply follow the orders of others, do everything from under the stick and adapt to your colleagues and boss, you should consider changing your position or profession.
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Set priorities, do not chase everything at once. Torn between work and family, you can forget about yourself and subsequently feel confused. Decide what is important to you at the moment, and focus on it.
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Stay alone with yourself. A person who does not want to lose himself often tries to communicate more and not to hide in himself. But this is not always the right approach. Loneliness also bears fruit, because a person has the opportunity to ponder what is happening around him. At this time, he belongs only to himself, and this gives good results. Such work on oneself should take place daily, and it has nothing to do with looking after the exterior or cooking in an empty kitchen. Learn to just sometimes sit in silence, walk alone in the parks, watch the city from a bench or from a window.
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Engage in self-education. Continuous improvement of personality does not occur on its own, for this you will have to make some efforts. You do not have to go to university or enroll in courses. There is always the opportunity to purchase books or find useful information on the Internet. So you will feel firm ground under your feet and will not be afraid to take the wrong step to the side.
Useful advice
Consult a psychologist. If your life is completely out of control and you don’t know where to go next, do not be afraid to make an appointment with a therapist. It will help you find the right direction and not get bogged down in the abyss of dark thoughts.