Friendliness and compassion are very pleasant traits of character. However, if the measure is not respected, they can become obsessive. This is unlikely to please the object of attention, and most likely he will not feel gratitude
Instruction manual
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If your friend is upset or alarmed by something, it is quite natural to ask him what happened and offer your help. However, do not insist if you see that a person is not inclined to frankness. In this case, it is better to leave him alone, offering to contact if he still needs help.
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It is very difficult to determine the line between caring and obsession with a loving person. The stormy delight of the first days of love inevitably gives way to more even relations. A more emotional partner (usually a woman) sometimes painfully perceives this change, considering it a sign of cooling and even a close separation.
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The most unsuccessful decision will be the pursuit of a loved one, constant phone calls and SMS, chatting and resentment, if the loved one did not answer immediately, talked dryly or quickly said goodbye. Learn to respect another person’s personal space. Give him the right to free time from you. The desire to keep a man on a leash will almost inevitably make him want to break free.
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Of course, you need to pay attention to your loved one, but just enough so that it does not annoy him. The need to constantly make excuses and prove your love can lead to the fact that you are so scared - cooling and parting.
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Find some interesting or useful activities for you to fill in the time you spend individually. It can be a sport, a foreign language, some other hobby or just meeting friends. A man should not even have the thought that waiting for his call is your only occupation. Otherwise, even a good and good person may be tempted to abuse their power over you a little.
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Sometimes parental care can turn into obsession. Parents cannot believe that their child has already grown up and is capable of actions that will not lead to illness or accident. However, even babies need a certain amount of independence. A healthy 5-year-old child angrily shouts: “I myself!” When parents try to build a house out of chairs and blankets instead.
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Imposed parental assistance can be harmful, depriving kids of the joy of independent creativity. Especially this applies to grown children. Do not deny them the right to acquire their own life experience, even at the cost of mistakes and deprivations. Of course, children should know that they can count on your support if they need it, but it's better to wait for their requests.