Friends and relatives wish to live in peace and harmony. To love and understand each other, the young themselves dream to the grave. However, unfortunately, not every family dreams and wishes come true.
The conflict can be caused by different views on raising children, on how to spend a vacation or spend money, jealousy, resentment for the unfair distribution of family responsibilities, drunkenness of one of the spouses and many other situations. How to avoid turning a normal discussion of the problem into a scandal?
Sometimes it happens that a trifling, at first glance, remark leads to a real quarrel. Perhaps it was expressed at the wrong time, when the spouse was tired, hungry, or he had a complaint to you personally, so your remark caused an outburst of indignation and a stream of accusations against you. Try to be more attentive to your life partner, to his problems and mood, often put yourself in his place. Suddenly, his claims are not without reason - healthy self-criticism will help to avoid conflicts in your family.
Perhaps also, it only seemed to you that the remark was trifling, but the spouse offended your tone. Consider the nature of your loved one when deciding to ask or remind you of something. Do not criticize or make fun of your spouse in public. For the whole world, your family must remain one when one for all and all for one.
In disputes, try to control yourself: do not raise your voice, do not resort to insulting generalizations like "you never hear me, " "you always think only about yourself." Insults to relatives are completely unacceptable. If you see that the situation is getting out of hand, it’s best to postpone the discussion until both of you calm down.
Reasonable compromise is the foundation of a strong family. Do not always try to insist on your own - make concessions so that the spouse understands that his opinion and his interests are important to you.
The habit of pouring the annoyance accumulated during the day on loved ones can kill the most ardent love. Control yourself, do not let go home because of personal troubles. In turn, if you see that the spouse is ready to flare up, it is better to leave him alone. Sometimes a good joke can defuse the atmosphere, it’s important not to confuse it with sarcasm or ridicule.
Sometimes one of the spouses abuses the kindness and pliability of the other. If this trend is ignored, after a while the family turns into a tyrant-victim pair. A compliant partner, and, most importantly, children, suffers from these relationships. Do not allow family problems to be resolved at your expense.