Self-confidence is an important quality that allows a person to successfully cope with the many challenges life poses to him. In order to develop it, it is necessary to make certain efforts, while the main thing is an ardent desire to change yourself, to get rid of shortcomings.
You will need
- - the desire to change yourself;
- - faith in one's own strength.
Instruction manual
one
Remember that self-doubt is determined by lurking fears in the mind. In this case, the main one is the fear of how others will perceive your words, actions, appearance, what they think about you, etc. etc. Knowing the cause of uncertainty, you can fight it.
2
You need to do something, and you are unsure of yourself. Imagine that the worst thing that can happen in this situation has already happened. Accept this internally, accept as a fact. For example, a guy wants to meet a girl (or vice versa), but is afraid to take the first step - to come up, say something. Fears: they will make fun of him, they will refuse him reciprocity, he will look very stupid.
3
Once in this situation, evaluate your fears and agree that all this can happen. Moreover, accept the negative outcome as already accomplished, feel it. Everything has already happened, you have nothing more to fear. Therefore, nothing prevents to approach the girl and say the first words.
4
Use the tactics of small accomplishments. Find small everyday challenges and overcome them. Outwardly, they can be quite insignificant - ask someone about something, do something in front of others. Overcoming your uncertainty about the little things, you will gradually begin to notice that it is easier for you to communicate with people.
5
If you are facing some serious task, break it down into a sequence of small actions, and then focus on their successive implementation. This approach gives good results - you stop seeing a big difficult task, instead of it a large number of small actions appear, each of which individually does not look so frightening.
6
Always remember that the vast majority of people do not care about you. They don’t care how you look, what you say, how you behave, etc. etc. If you walk down the street, looking down and blushing at the mere thought that others are looking at you and may think something negative, relax - they are interested in their own problems and concerns, but not you.
7
Learn to smile. A smile is a great tool to relieve excessive stress. Smile, even if you have a completely inappropriate mood for this, and you immediately feel how fears and stiffness go. The effectiveness of a smile as a means of dealing with uncertainty, constraint, and stress is explained physiologically purely: people smile when they feel good and comfortable. Having smiled in a situation when you are not up to a smile, you start a feedback mechanism that allows you to relax, feel more confident.
eight
Choose the image of a totem animal, which, in your opinion, is associated with strength, dexterity, confidence. Then try to feel like him. For example, walking along the street, imagine yourself a lion. Leo is the king of the jungle, no one and nothing can resist him. Feel in him his strength, calm grace, some laziness caused by a feeling of his own power. Enter the image, and you will see that the uncertainty goes away, it is much easier for you to cope with what causes your fears.