If you often have a condition when there are so few life forces that you want to hide from everyone and start to “lick your wounds” - this means that you have the loser's habits that attract negative to you. At the same time, you don’t understand that you have them and what exactly they prevent to enjoy life.
There are many habits of a loser, but there are the most pronounced ones that can be traced in yourself. And if you get rid of at least a few, then you can radically change your life. And then you yourself will not cease to be surprised at those transformations that will begin around you.
These are the habits:
1. Negative thinking
How does it work? Thoughts: "Here, always like that, nothing new - everywhere one bad luck", "If they wanted the best, it turned out as always." With these thoughts we are building ourselves a negative program for the future, that everything will always be bad and there is no need to wait for changes. And then we wonder why this program came to life.
And all because human thought is very strong. Everyone knows the trivial expression “thought is material, ” only few have applied it to themselves. This is the whole secret. You can know a lot, you can say a lot of smart words, but do nothing.
Meanwhile, psychologists have an expression: "Thought is an act, and often the most important." (Svetlana Lada-Rus. "The ABC of happiness"). That is, everything that we think will certainly go to the physical plane. So there is nothing to be surprised.
What to do? Start by monitoring your thoughts first, or ask those who talk with you often throughout the day to notice your constant phrases and characteristic expressions. And write it all down on paper.
When the analysis is done, begin to monitor yourself and remake these thoughts in the opposite. For example: "Well, this time it didn’t work out - the next time it will work out." That is, to think only in a positive way, even if everything collapses around.
2. Rumbling behind
There is such a law in space - the law of a boomerang. If you gossip about a person, they will gossip about you too. And this is the creation of a negative program of your life not by you, but by other people. They will interfere with your energy, destroying it and depriving you of strength.
And in general - they will consider you a bad person, they will not want to have business with you. There is one little secret here: everything that you say about another person, people subconsciously begin to think about you. That is, they relate your words both to the one you spoke about and to you.
What to do? Make it a rule to look for good in people, to rely on this good, and to say only good behind your back. A fair remark is better to make the person himself, looking in the eye.
3. Self-pity and complaints of life
Self-pity is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. One who pities himself or loved ones recognizes the injustice of the world. That is, he begins to confront the higher forces that send him tests. He thinks that God is unfair, but he is fair and knows what is best.
Meanwhile, we receive from life only what we deserve - this is also a law. Therefore, feeling sorry for yourself is extremely unreasonable, wrong. And this also negatively affects life, because pity takes power, steals potential and resources.
What to do?
Keep track of when you have self-pity and try to replace it with affirmations such as "Everything is fair in the world", "What I earned, I got it." Or make your own phrases that will help you survive a difficult moment.
Better yet, learn to give thanks. For all the good that life sends, and for all the negative too. It happens that such a positive result arises from negativity that we do not expect it.