It is very important in adolescence to prepare the child for adulthood and instill in him the traits of independence. He must have certain skills, be able to make decisions and be responsible for his actions.
Care for needs
An independent person knows how to fulfill the necessary skills: if necessary, wash clothes, buy food and cook his own dinner. He also tidies up the apartment, takes out the trash and tries to keep things in their places.
Find a way to motivate your child to maintain order in his personal space. Offer the teenager his household responsibilities. He can take out the garbage daily in the morning, after school to buy bread and milk in the store, and in the evening participate in the process of preparing dinner or independently lay the laundry.
Gradually expand the scope of his duties. Put the teenager in the house cleaning process. His duty can be the whole cleaning, if the parents are very busy, or some specific process: vacuum, wipe the dust, mop the floor. He must independently monitor his neat appearance. It is desirable that he ironed his clothes and cleaned his shoes in the morning.
Social behavior
An independent person knows how to pay utility bills, and will be able to call a master in case of emergency. In non-standard situations, an independent person is not at a loss, but will actively seek a solution.
Ask the teenager to pay utility bills sometimes. Get a home directory with emergency phones and acquaintances. Show the child all the phones and explain to whom he should call in emergency situations, or which of his friends will give the necessary advice if you can’t get through to the phone.
Your goals
An independent person has his own outlook on life. He is not subject to other people's influence and clearly presents his immediate goals and action plan. An adult finds the necessary information for the implementation of the plan and attracts others to help if the situation requires it. He is motivated to achieve a result.
Encourage your child’s desire for new knowledge and skills. Help him create short-term plans and control the process of achieving them. Teach the teenager not to give up if he doesn’t succeed, but to look for other ways to achieve the goal.