Almost everyone sooner or later begins to feel dissatisfaction with his own life and decides to change it for the better. However, not everyone succeeds in overcoming the fear of change in themselves and really starting to act.
You will need
- - paper
- - pen or pencil
- - whatman
- - scissors
- - magazines
- - access to the Internet
- - a printer
Instruction manual
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In order to change your life, first you need to understand in which particular area you need changes. Sit down and analyze all areas of life: family, relationships with people, work, material wealth, your personal qualities. Take a piece of paper and make a list of the areas for which you need changes.
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Write a clarifying comment next to each item. If you are not satisfied with the work, in the commentary, not only indicate your goal - to change your job, but also the desired position or area in which you want to realize yourself. If you want changes in your personal life, feel free to describe what kind of changes you are waiting for: to meet the person of your dreams, get married, have a baby or vice versa end a hopeless relationship that is too long, etc.
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Think about the question, “What will change in my life if these wishes come true?” and write a detailed answer to each item. Thus, you can clearly see how your life can change for the better if you overcome your fear of changing something. The right motivation is of great importance, since only it is able to push a person to action.
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In order to change your psychological attitude and stop being afraid of changes, create a collage of desires. Take a Whatman paper or a large piece of paper. Find images in magazines or the Internet that will illustrate your desires. If you want to lose weight, you can use a photo of a person with a figure that you like to illustrate this dream. To achieve happiness in your personal life, choose a picture with which you will associate this desire: it can be a photo of a happy married couple or just a picture that embodies love and tenderness. Cut out wish pictures from magazines or print photos found on the Internet on a printer and paste them on a prepared Whatman paper. Hang the resulting collage in the most prominent place in the room, for example, above the bed. This will allow you not to forget about your desires.
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Take 10-15 minutes every day to visualize your desires. In a calm environment, look at your collage and imagine in colors what your life will be like when the long-awaited changes take place in it. Visualization will allow you to minimize your fear of acting, and within a few days you will feel that you have not only stopped being afraid, but you really want your wishes to come true soon. You can use the method of visualization "on the contrary": imagine what your life will be like if you still do not decide to change something in it.
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Prepare yourself for the fact that everything desired cannot happen at once in one moment, since all changes occur gradually. Remember that even the smallest step will invariably bring you closer to the realization of a dream, so develop a strategy to achieve the goal and start working on it. If you want to lose weight, but are still afraid to go on a diet or go in for sports, start small: replace one of the plentiful meals with a more modest or healthy one, and instead of bothering yourself with lengthy workouts in the gym, do the simplest five-minute every day exercises. In a couple of weeks you will feel that everything is not at all scary, and you will be ready to complicate the program to achieve the desired.
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Delight yourself with small gifts for every step you take. For example, you decided and talked with your husband about what does not suit you in a relationship - as a compensation, allow yourself to buy some new thing. You lasted a whole week on a diet - eat your favorite cake. They wrote a letter of resignation - arrange an unscheduled meeting with friends.
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External support will help you start your journey to achieving your plan. Talk to relatives or friends of whom you are confident, tell us about your goals and desires, and ask them to help you mentally. All people are interested in the successful life of their loved ones, and therefore they will certainly help you to stop being afraid of changes and begin the difficult path to achieving all that was planned.
note
Do not drive yourself into the time frame. Do not set yourself the task of achieving the goal in a week or a month. Changes in life cannot happen instantly. You can lose motivation if your plan for some reason does not succeed by the deadline, so it’s better to just have a goal and move slowly but surely towards it.
Useful advice
Try to perceive the changes in life as an exciting game. Imagine that the person committing these actions is not you, but someone else who you are just watching from the side. So it will be easier for you to part with your fear of change. And remember that if you don’t like everything that happens, you can easily stop this game.
- Site "Growth Factor", article "How to decide and change life"
- Website "Happy life with your own hands", article "How to decide on a change"
- The site "The Magic of the Purple Lady", article "How to decide on a change in life to achieve what you want?"