Children's fears are an indicator of normal mental development. Fear protects the child from excessive risk. This is the manifestation of the "protective" function of fears. It is necessary to get rid of fear when it becomes obsessive, preventing children from knowing the world around them, when they do not let them sleep peacefully. In preschool age, fears can be defeated, because they are more conditioned by emotions than character, and are still largely age-related, transitory in nature.
You will need
- - knowledge of the norms of occurrence of age-related fears;
- - toys of characters that the child is afraid of.
Instruction manual
one
Do not strive to rid the child of fears if they are of an age-related nature and are not manifested intensely. Give him the opportunity to overcome frightening situations on his own.
2
Try to be optimistic about the world. Do not infect children with your fears, anxiety. A child, in the process of exploring the surrounding world from adults, learns to emotionally respond to objects of nature or to situations. If the mother is afraid of bees, then the child will react to them in a fright.
3
Teach children to experience both positive and negative emotions, but positive should prevail in the process of communication and play. Even fears can be played, for example, to fight the Serpent Gorynych or Baba Yaga, and get great pleasure from defeating them.
4
Do not tell scary tales and stories to preschoolers, as children perceive them as reality and begin to believe the situations described in them. Therefore, they are afraid to let their parents out of the house, because in their absence, all sorts of misfortunes happen in these stories. Younger students themselves will begin to compose such tales and tell them in a team of peers.
5
If a child is suddenly afraid of some kind of sound, use the rationality method, i.e. explain in simple and understandable words where this sound comes from and how dangerous it is: "The pipe will buzz and stop", "Uncle drills, but this is not for long." Explain the phenomena of nature from a scientific point of view to younger schoolchildren: why there is thunder and lightning flashing. It is better to conduct such informative classes in advance, and in the storm to consolidate this knowledge clearly.
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Do not avoid the object of fear, but, on the contrary, train your child in the ability to overcome fear: then go into a dark room, then leave it; tossing the child up, etc. Teach your child to manipulate his fear: buy a small toy dog or draw and cut it out of cardboard. The ability to control a frightening object, to hold it in your hands, will help you gain a sense of superiority, power over it, and relieve fear.
note
An adult needs to be able to analyze the causes of fears in children and take the necessary measures to eliminate them.
Useful advice
It is necessary to engage the child in any activity during the day, otherwise he will again and again return to his experiences.