It is believed that adults are supposed to solve their problems on their own, and crying and complaining about life - unworthy classes. But keeping emotions and negative thoughts in yourself is also harmful - you can get sick. So, still, sometimes someone needs to “pour out the soul”, if only for the therapeutic effect.
Instruction manual
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In Russia, it is customary to share your sorrows with friends. Well, who else will listen and support, sympathize and understand? Therefore, inviting a friend or girlfriend to a “glass of tea” and giving vent to emotions during an intimate conversation is far from the worst way. However, it also happens that a friend “turns out to be suddenly, ” and all the revelations expressed by you on a wave of emotions will be used against you. Is your “trustee” reliable enough to keep all your secrets? In addition, too frequent use of a friend as a "vest" does not benefit friendship: the need to sympathize and empathize with your sorrows takes away the interlocutor too much energy, and at some point even the most faithful friend may get tired of it.
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It is believed that a heart-to-heart talk is good with a person accidentally met. It could be a train companion neighbor or something like that. Indeed, throwing out emotions, you can not be afraid that the interlocutor will use the information he heard to the detriment of you, pass it on to someone you know or will not treat you too well - because you are completely different people, each of you has your own life, and the likelihood of a new meeting is negligible. But not every day you have to travel by train or intercity bus, and a fellow traveler may not always have an intimate conversation. So this method cannot be applied more or less regularly.
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Communication on the Internet is akin to the previous method. You hid behind a nickname, did not provide your data, it would seem - why be afraid? You can talk on any topic and express whatever your heart desires! But the problem is that what gets on the Internet stays there forever. And a forgotten dialogue or accusatory post may “pop up” at the most inopportune moment and in the most unfavorable situation for you. So, sending your printed maxims to the expanses of the World Wide Web, it is not superfluous to recall the old truth that it is impossible to knock down with an ax what is "written with a pen."
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The most civilized way to talk about your problems and try to solve them will undoubtedly be an appeal to a psychologist. But this method also has its drawbacks. Firstly, “intimate conversations” with the “healer of human souls” are far from free, and to really understand the problem and find ways to solve it, one or two sessions is clearly not enough. So, you have to fork out for a rather tangible amount. In addition, a visit to a psychologist suggests that a person is ready to work, to change his outlook on life and behavior. If there is no such conscious need, you should not start sessions - you will only waste your time and money. In addition, finding “your” psychologist is not so easy, especially in small cities, where specialists in this area can be counted on the fingers.
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And finally, another way to pour out the soul is a dialogue with oneself. By the way, psychologists say that this is a very useful therapeutic point of view: the expressed emotions find a way out, and the thoughts framed in the sentences gain clarity, and it becomes much easier for a person to understand their problems. The main condition for such a dialogue (or monologue) is that he is pronounced not to himself (which is more familiar), but out loud. Find the time and place when no one can stop you or accidentally hear your outpouring, and begin an individual session of psychotherapy! It is even better to do this in writing, but not on a computer, but using an ordinary fountain pen on a piece of paper. After you feel that there is nothing to add to the written, the sheet of revelations can and even needs to be destroyed. This act also has a therapeutic value: it symbolizes getting rid of the negative and emotional cleansing.