At work, in the circle of friends and at home, we are surrounded by many situations when it is necessary to express our point of view and convince people of their rightness. Often this flows into an argument, and then into a quarrel, but to prevent this from happening, you need to remember a few golden rules of persuasion.
Instruction manual
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In the dispute, the winner is the one who does not try to strike him up, so try to negotiate peacefully and in no case tell the person you are talking about, that he is wrong. This will only provoke a defensive response, and your discussion will grow into an aggressive ping-pong game.
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Do not try to forcibly convince your opponent of your innocence, for example, say "I know better" or "Just trust me." Instead, show your openness and goodwill, sincerely trying to listen to the interlocutor.
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Do not interrupt, do not scream, and in general, try to conduct a conversation in such a way that you speak the least. Your thought should be clear and concise, but as soon as you embark on lengthy arguments, you lose all points and your own confidence.
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Ask such questions to the opponent that he can only answer in a positive way. Your remarks should interest a person, relate to the sphere of his personal interests. In a word, try to model sentences so that your point of view appears in a pleasant form for the interlocutor.
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In the event that you were wrong in any matter, then admit it without hesitation. You will be surprised, but your openness and willingness to admit your mistakes can ultimately play into your hands.
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Always argue only with what you really know and understand. There is no need to talk about what you do not know, since one question is asked in essence, and you will sit in a puddle.
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Say only the main things and avoid unnecessary details. The more concise and understandable your speech will be, the more likely it will be in the right form to the interlocutor and will not cause unnecessary questions. Another danger of long monologues is the loss of interest in the opponent, this should also be avoided.
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When naming specific facts, do not be afraid to show feelings and personal attitude to what you are talking about. Stories from your life are suitable, how you first met this or some indicative cases. But do not overdo it with them, it is important to find the right balance.
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A huge role in persuasion is played by your effective presentation. Speak clearly and loudly enough for everyone to hear. Gesture, emphasize the voice on the most important. Walk around the room, but don’t loom, it can be annoying. Do not distract the interlocutor with objects, so keep your hands free. The maximum you can take is a pen. Good luck convincing!