Divorce is a fairly common occurrence in our society. If a child is left from the first marriage, then all further communication with the opposite sex should take place extremely carefully. And if there is no sense in hiding the relationship from the child, and you intend to get married, you should prepare the child for acquaintance with a person close to you, but completely alien to him.
1. The best way to get your child to know your new lover is neutral territory. A good scenario: you walk with your child in a park, meet your "good friend" (that is, your lover) and he suggests everyone to go to the park together or go fishing. Let the child have a pleasant experience from the first meeting. Let your man not touch you and try to be as considerate as possible. After a walk together, carefully find out if your lover liked the child.
2. Organize the next few meetings not at your place or at his house: go to a picnic, to the cinema, to a concert. Only after that, when you see that the child does not experience negative emotions for the man, invite him to your home. Do not rush to live together at once - it is better not to rush here.
3. Never compare a new lover with a dad's child. For a child, dad is always the best, because these comparisons will bring only negative.
4. Do not change family habits. Continue cycling on Saturdays and watch the movie together at 9 p.m. Let the man join your family traditions whenever possible.
5. Be honest with your child. Try to explain that you like this man, but the child will always remain in the first place for you and you will not love him less.
6. Do not make your stepfather call "dad." It can only be the initiative of the child himself. A stepfather should not pretend to be a father. Let it be "Uncle Sasha or Uncle Yura."
7. Try to make sure that your lover does not bother the child with toys. Better they go somewhere together, do a common thing. This is more useful than expensive gifts.