If you are tired of playing secondary roles, take the initiative in your own hands. The initiative may concern relationships, careers. Do not do without personal activity in an attempt to self-improvement and self-development.
Instruction manual
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The initiative will not fall on you from the ceiling. The ability to defend and promote their interests must be developed gradually, consistently and systematically. Take responsibility for your life. Do not hope that someone will do everything for you: others may not know or do not share your preferences.
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Awareness is an important quality of a leader. In an unfamiliar environment, a person is lost and is afraid of taking a step. Therefore, you should be aware of what environment you are dealing with and what you can expect from certain entities. Start with simple steps, then move on to more grandiose accomplishments.
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Only rely on yourself. Small orders, of course, can be given to one of the comrades, but in this case you should not count on full compliance with your requirements and expectations. Each person has their own socio-psychological matrix formed over their lives, so your views on the same phenomenon can radically differ.
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Organize your living space to keep things in control. Spend your time and energy on what is most important to you. Do not waste your time on petty entertainments, they will not make you either stronger or more attractive, they will only take your time.
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To be an initiative person, you need to lead a healthy and active lifestyle. Go in for sports, run, swim, disperse blood over the body. They will be equal to you, seeing in you not only a leader, but also a slender fit man who, of course, is worthy of imitation.
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If you are not sure of the need for the first step on your part, try provoking another to take this step. For example, if you want to get to know someone, look closely at the person you like from the outside, smile mysteriously, draw attention to yourself. You can come and ask for any help.
note
Initiating is not always appropriate. In some cases, it is wiser to step back and remain silent.
Useful advice
Do not step back immediately at the first failure. Perhaps it makes sense to try again. The next step may be successful, and suffering an inevitable defeat due to ownership of passivity is stupid.