Disappointments are an inevitable part of our lives, but the pain inflicted by the closest people is too acute. What are the reasons why relations go to hell?
1. Living in constant negativity
It so happens that problems fall upon a person like snow on his head, but he is unable to fight and just breaks down. As a result, problems are solved, and the life situation is restored, and the person is broken and unable to return to his former optimistic path.
This state of affairs is very dangerous for the relationship. The partner has to not only try to cheer up and inspire morale in his “soul mate”, but also to maintain his mood and clarity of thinking. As a result, the partner is emotionally devastated. But the most dangerous thing is not this.
A negative attitude towards life can be a sign of depression. And depression itself is not so terrible as undermining the sexual basis of relationships and losing the attraction of partners to each other. Sometimes depression is even useful when one of the lovers helps the other to get out of it; much worse when a physical desire for intimacy is felt. Therefore, treason is so terrible. It undermines not only trust, but also sexual attraction to each other.
2. Emotional alienation
When partners suddenly begin to behave differently, no longer try to spend time together or simply learn how each other’s affairs, this is due to a loss of interest in each other as individuals. It’s like in that old story: “They converged because they were very similar, and they parted because they were too different.” If at the beginning of a relationship, when people want to be together, they blur the differences and look for similarities, then before parting, on the contrary, they find too many different features and simply do not see the point in maintaining a relationship without a future. This behavior may be a sign of passive aggression. As a rule, a person plays a scenario according to which in childhood he left the zone of influence of parents. He subconsciously perceives the influence that the partner has on him as destructive and overwhelming, and tries to get rid of him. Moreover, for those who are avoided, it may be unexpected and painful to encounter such coldness and indifference of a loved one.
3. Dissatisfaction with the partner
Constant sharp jokes or frank remarks about the partner does not contribute to the development of healthy and strong relationships. Psychologists attribute this behavior to a loss of respect. Living with the feeling that your partner is constantly dissatisfied with you is very difficult. But even harder to those who criticize. He understands that such a relationship will not bring satisfaction for him, but cannot openly admit it. As a result, he simply harasses a loved one, and he leaves on his own. Constant criticism is the most dangerous thing that can destroy even the strongest relationships.