Under the influence of emotions, a person is able to commit an act, which subsequently most often greatly regrets. But the word is not a sparrow. To learn how to manage negative emotions, restrain anger and irritation, to wean yourself from being rude, you will have to do some serious work on yourself.
Instruction manual
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The more you allow your irritation and rudeness to appear, the more emotions will drag you. The external expression of negative emotions only fuels the internal sensations, bringing your feelings to the “boiling point”. In order not to explode, you should learn to restrain the expression of feelings and remember some techniques for complacency.
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During a period of stress, anger as a natural reaction contributes to the release of adrenaline, which sets a person to fight. Anger provokes irritation and, as a result, rudeness. Find anger another way. Do not allow a splashing stream of abuse to ruin your career or relationship with loved ones. Try to soberly assess the situation and direct the irritation in a different direction.
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Try to find support from friends or colleagues, talk to them, relieve internal stress. This will save you from suffocating feelings of discontent and anger, from grumbling and rudeness on your part. And next time it will be much easier to suppress irritation and avoid offensive words addressed to a person who did not deserve them.
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Do not go about your imagination. The accumulated anger and the pictures drawn by an excited consciousness only provoke great rudeness. Do not think about the situation causing you excitement, distract, stop, do not “wind” yourself.
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Transform your anger or discontent into positive good deeds. If you are angry at your boss, don’t show your rudeness, throw out your anger in shock work and prove your professionalism. If you are unhappy with your loved ones, go shopping and pick them presents for the coming holiday, instead of grumbling and tormenting them with your annoyance. And even more so, it is worthwhile to restrain from being rude to completely strangers, even if they fell under a "hot hand" - they certainly didn’t do anything to you.
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Finally, the relaxation technique has not hurt anyone. As soon as another rudeness is ready to break from the tongue, bite it, close your eyes, inhale deeply and count to ten. As the famous wisdom says: if you can’t change the situation, change your attitude towards it.