Attentive and sensitive people always react to the mood of others, especially if they are close people or relatives. Therefore, when someone near is feeling bad or is in a difficult life situation, a person nearby wants to support and somehow help overcome difficulties. However, not everyone can provide competent help and support, but this is not difficult to learn.
Instruction manual
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First of all, you need to encourage a person to speak out and express their emotions. One can only guess what the other person is thinking about and what exactly he is most worried about. But moral support is possible only by understanding the essence of the issue and the emotional state of another.
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To provoke a frank conversation, you can try to ask a few questions, observe the person’s reaction to the questions. Even closed and less emotional people sometimes want to talk and speak, so probably a person will want to talk about your problem with you.
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Therefore, the second important point in providing moral assistance is to give a person the opportunity to speak out and be heard. No need to interrupt a person while he is speaking. All clarifying questions and misunderstandings can be discussed later. It is better to prove yourself an attentive listener and express a willingness to act.
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Having learned the essence of the problem or a difficult situation, you need to understand whether it is possible to help with something. A question that seems complicated and insoluble to one person, the second has already passed and knows where the optimal solution is. Therefore, by dividing the problem into two, you can try to find a practical solution. If the situation is difficult and it is impossible to solve it with the available forces, then other help may be useful to the person: to cope with the house, take on household chores or distract with some kind of event.
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Another important point of help is to simply be nearby for as long as the situation requires. Saying banal phrases that everything will work out over time and will be good, risky and undesirable. They reassure someone, but someone, on the contrary, will lead to irritation. It is better to show a person that he has support in any case, even if everything is not very good.
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An effective way to help a loved one is to try to distract him. You can try to offer to do what brings him pleasure. Go fishing and stay in silence, or watch a new movie in a movie theater and distract from unpleasant emotions. But, of course, you need to understand in what situation the entertainment will be appropriate. The theater is unlikely to help a person in mourning distract, and such a proposal will be perceived negatively.
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It is very important to understand that a person in a difficult situation can be emotionally depressed, often irritated or quick-tempered. It is necessary to try to “smooth the corners” of such flashes and to react correctly to such manifestations.
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A sensitive and attentive attitude towards a person in a difficult situation will definitely ease his morale and, possibly, help to get out of depression. Therefore, you need to be generous with the moral support of this person.