Vanity is a great sin. Forgetting, a person begins to seek praise and glory wherever possible, without paying attention to anything else. The disease of vanity is immediately difficult to notice, although it can be very clearly visible to others. The man himself, sometimes without realizing it, strives to receive praise, bathe in glory, applause and approval, nourishing them like a vampire. If you notice the sin of vanity in yourself and sincerely want to get rid of it, serious psychological work remains to be done.
Instruction manual
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Control yourself. It sounds quite simple, but sometimes conceited people sometimes do not notice all the manifestations of their vanity. You must learn to track any little things that push you again and again to a dangerous path and consciously reject them. If you are doing something, do not expect praise for it. Learn to do great good deeds just like that, not so that others learn about it, but just out of good intentions. At first it is very difficult, because you are used to being praised and exalted. But vanity is treated with humility.
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Learn to be inconspicuous, learn modesty and generosity. After all, only a truly generous person is able to give a piece of his for another so that no one will know about it. There are patrons who donate on their own behalf, and there are those who donate incognito. Do you know how they differ? For the second it doesn’t matter if someone finds out about their good deed or not. For truly noble and kind people, the result is important, what they sacrificed for. Those who advertise their own actions, expecting praise and approval from the broad masses, see the result not in good deed, but in their own fame.
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Learn to love yourself! Love exactly as you are. Without embellishment and regalia. Only in this case, those around you will really appreciate and believe that you can do a lot. Vanity is an attempt to find support and extra strength in praising and encouraging others. Many people do not understand that their main strength is not in other people and their approval, but inside themselves. After all, doing a good deed or overpowering yourself, you show your own strength, which does not need additional confirmation from the outside.
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Why do you want to get rid of vanity? Is it not for others to notice this and again give you a plus? If so, then your desire is the same indulgence of vanity, only in a different form. Do not deceive yourself first and foremost, decide exactly what you really want.
Useful advice
If praise matters to you, it’s not at all necessary that you are conceited. Many people lack the praise of loved ones or colleagues, as a result of which an inferiority complex is formed. Do not confuse a lack of love with true vanity.