The child begins to understand and feel guilty for what happened at the age of 5-7. Most often, this feeling is consciously cultivated in it by parents who believe that they are acting with good intentions. They think that in this way they educate their child as a conscientious and responsible person. But it’s not always just to admit guilt for correcting errors.
Instruction manual
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If you return to childhood, you will recall that adults, parents or caregivers inspired guilty feelings for those actions that they did not like. It was not a big deal for a child to get his clothes dirty, but after this happened, he could hear words from an adult that he did not know how to be clean, that he was bad. As a rule, it was not the actions themselves that were condemned, but the person who committed them. Guilt was introduced into your subconscious through a system of punishments and rewards.
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Gradually, as you grow older, guilty feelings arose in those cases when you or your actions did not meet the expectations that others placed on you. At this moment, the concept of responsibility and guilt was replaced. On a subconscious level, you understood that no action is required to rectify the situation, just apologize and admit your guilt.
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Such a substitution subsequently plays a cruel joke with an adult who sincerely does not understand what is needed of him in the family or at work. By inertia, as well as in childhood, he knows that he has committed an offense, but has shown that he is guilty, apologized and believes that the question has been settled on this. But the actions of an adult, on which lies the responsibility for other people and the work entrusted to him, are not akin to the misconduct of a child who bears no responsibility.
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Understand that an adult does not have to feel guilty. In the event that you have made a mistake, an apology will not be enough - further actions are expected from you, by which you will correct the harm done to others.
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When you stop mechanically apologizing as a child’s habit, admitting guilt, and begin to make efforts to always be responsible for your words and actions, only then you can be considered a truly adult. Get rid of guilt and gain a sense of responsibility if you want others to take you seriously.