The basis of the hysterical nature is egocentrism. This desire, by all means, did not draw attention to itself. When meeting such a person on the street or in transport, you can simply not pay attention to him. But communication with the hysterical leader (especially if the boss is a woman) causes a lot of problems. To get rid of them, you need to adhere to several principles.
Instruction manual
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If your boss is a hysterical person, and you are dependent on him, it is important to set yourself up so as not to feel like an unhappy person who is not able to change anything in his life. Firmly tell yourself that you yourself have decided for a certain time to remain under the guidance of a tyrant and hysteria. After that, you will already feel that you are not a passive victim, but an adult who makes decisions and manages his own life.
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In dealing with a hysterical person, one cannot do without flattery, either explicit or veiled. Tantrums gladly accept compliments about their appearance and clothing. You need to carefully look at what advantages such a person exposes and makes them the object of flattering statements. For example, the head’s scientific article, which is supposedly so interesting and causes such an abundance of thoughts that after reading it, sleeplessness occurs before going to bed.
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If you express your request to such a person, do it in his coordinate system, i.e. so that your request is in the rational interests of the boss. For example, a few days off at your own expense in order to put in order thoughts to prepare for the start of the launch of a new project. And do not believe the loud promises of the hysterical boss, most often he does not hold them back. And if you express your dissatisfaction with this circumstance, you will be blamed for this.
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Reasoning about people in tantrums is subjective and often diametrically opposed. In the morning you may be greeted at the workplace with a smile, and by lunchtime you will hear many unpleasant things. And after an hour, the boss can invite you to a cup of coffee. Such changes should not scare you; for tantrums, this is normal. Try not to be upset over trifles and not pay attention to such mood swings in the boss.
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Tantrums do not tolerate caustic remarks addressed to them and about people close to them. Even if the boss speaks critically about any relative of his, don’t get on the same level with him and don’t join criticism, they won’t forgive you for that.
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When communicating with the hysterical boss, use the method of Socratic dialogue. Do not respond to stinging statements in the same way; translate emotional nonsense into rational conversation. Do not provoke emotional reactions, with all your kind, let us understand your interest only in the practical aspects of the conversation. If you are consistent and able to conduct a reasoned dialogue, the hysterical boss will not be able to suppress you with his emotional pressure, in which he has no equal. You can defeat him only in a logical dispute.