Solving your problems with the help of a psychologist is becoming commonplace in our society. The Russian man, who at first ironically chuckled at the heroes of Western films running to representatives of this profession for every reason, gradually begins to realize that discussing his problems with friends “over a glass of tea” is, of course, a good way to restore peace of mind, but the help of professionals often is much more effective.
Instruction manual
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Before contacting a psychologist, admit that you have a problem. Going to a session under the influence of persuasion of loved ones is not the best option. In order to change something in your life, you need to recognize the relevance of these changes for yourself. If you are sure that you are doing the right thing, and your life is going the way you would like, you will not change, no matter how your spouse, friend or family member asks you to do so. Only the internal need for change will become an effective motivation in order to reconsider your life and make it different.
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Find your "psychologist", i.e. a specialist with whom you want and can work together on your problem. And the matter is not only in the experience and professionalism of a specialist, although this is also very important. Psychologists are people too. And, working with clients, they have certain feelings for them. It is important that you are comfortable communicating with this person, so that you feel confidence in him - then the work will advance faster and more efficiently. It is believed that it is easier for a woman to communicate with a male psychologist, and for a man with a female specialist, but this is not a prerequisite. There are cases when a client is much more comfortable working with a representative of their gender
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Do not expect miracles from a psychologist. A true professional will not give advice, ready-made solutions and clear instructions on how to behave in a particular situation. The psychologist’s job is to help a person understand himself, in his reactions to life situations and encourage him to find optimal solutions to his problems. But the psychologist will not solve your problems for you. Nor does it teach you how to change others according to your expectations. Changes will concern only you and your personality.
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Be frank. Even insignificant details of your past experience can help a specialist understand the motives of your actions, the pattern of your psychological reactions, and therefore provide you with more effective assistance. If you hide something that you are ashamed to talk about, “not convenient”, etc., on the contrary, this can slow down the therapy process, because the psychologist will not be able to figure out what exactly touches the strings of your soul. Treat this specialist as a doctor - after all, it would not occur to you to feel embarrassed at a surgeon’s appointment
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Follow the recommendations that you receive from the psychologist, do not be lazy to do exercises, keep notes, etc., even if it first seems senseless or insignificant to you. Remember that you can change your life for the better only through the painstaking and thoughtful work that you do. The specialist only guides you along the path that you must go on your own, otherwise the desired changes will never come.