Sometimes it happens that time does not heal, and a mistake made once for many months, or even years, poisons your life. Instead of rejoicing on a good day, success at work and new relationships, you repeatedly scroll through your head in a painful situation, coming up with alternative solutions. Anyway, if you want your life to sparkle again, you have to do it - forgive yourself for a mistake.
You will need
A piece of paper, a pen, a phone.
Instruction manual
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Try to remember in detail the situation when you made a mistake. Do not throw a tantrum, but calmly reproduce the reasons that prompted you to go for it, some insignificant details. Abstract, take a piece of paper and write it all down. Imagine someone else telling you about your mistake.
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Now remember and write down your actions that led to disastrous consequences, that is, the actions that make up your mistake.
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And now, if there is a desire, cry. Arrange a tantrum, break a couple of plates, throw a pillow at the cat, knock your forehead against the wall. After you cried, and you feel better, re-read your notes, imagining that they were not written by you, but by someone else. Think about whether this “someone else” is doing the right thing to suffer so much because of a mistake he once made.
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Think about how you could do differently in a situation where a mistake was made. What would be the consequences of such an act? What prevented you from doing this?
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Find the phone numbers of people affected by your mistake, call them and apologize. It doesn't matter if you worry about an event that happened ten years ago. Even if your interlocutor hardly remembers when you offended him, you will still feel better after the words of repentance.
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Make the necessary conclusions for yourself and try to do as many good deeds as possible. To be in good relations with yourself and others, enjoy every day - this is the key to happiness.