In the old days in Russia, modesty was considered a virtue, but the modern rhythm of life makes a person to be active and confident. To overcome excessive modesty, you need to seriously work on yourself - only in this way you can achieve success in your personal and professional life.
Instruction manual
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Use a psychological technique to help get rid of excessive stiffness. It has long been observed that external and internal looseness are closely interconnected. This means that if you want to overcome modesty, you need to adopt the behavior of a confident and open person. Observe your leader or a successful colleague, note the gestures, postures and habits of a confident person and “try on” all this in front of the mirror. Learn to calmly move, speak, not hold back and keep relaxed.
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Try an exercise that develops social skills and helps you deal with communication difficulties. It consists in the fact that you must get to know different people. Try talking to strangers in any situation and in various places - in the store, on the train, etc. The more often you talk, the less you will feel shy and stressed during a conversation. Remember your timbre of speech, gestures and facial expressions in direct conversation. In the future, these feelings will help you restore confidence when communicating with any person.
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Imagine yourself a strong and attractive person or find a role model among famous personalities. If you manage to fully get used to the role, you can behave much more relaxed and more confident.
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Resist your shyness. Are you late for work and want to get to the table as discreetly as possible? Enter the office directly, say hello calmly, apologize and go to your place. Women in this situation should not walk on toes - knock on heels and do not hesitate to attract attention.
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Get rid of stiffness through singing. A shy person most often speaks muffledly and abruptly. Singing in full voice helps to relieve spasm from the vocal cords and get used to speaking loudly and confidently.
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Ask the opinion of the interlocutors. Shy people often have higher intelligence than less squeezed peers, since they spend more time on self-education. If you are afraid to express your opinion - ask. During the conversation, it will be easier for you to show your erudition and education.
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Give people compliments. Pleasant words call the interlocutor to reciprocating courtesy and make communication easy and relaxed. In addition, compliments addressed to others will remove the label of an arrogant and unsociable person who is often hung on shy and timid people.